When we have a tendency toward isolation originating from grief, it’s hard to reintegrate into society until you’ve had some experiences with grief recovery.
Many attempt to socialize every few years and then slide back into a place of comfort at home after a few months of failed friendships or lacklustre activities.
Alone is familiar. I like it. I learn from it.
~ Lisa
Alone is familiar. I like it. I learn from it. But then I want to share myself; to share what I’ve learned.
I crave variety, conversations, different perspectives, and new information so I get online, but the overload is almost instantaneous so I fade back again. And I don’t engage. Again. Back to comfortable isolation. It’s interesting to recognize. Hmm. Very roller-coastery.
There’s a constant pull for finding community outside, yet nothing’s satisfying enough to hop in the car and drive to. So the message repeats, and we fall away. Stay home. All you need is within.
Here’s a fun anagram (a word using the same letters in a different order to spell another word):
- LISTEN
- SILENT
To truly listen, you must be silent.
I’ll admit, I enjoy the daily isolation. It’s necessary and it’s good for the nervous system.
In the quiet the healing happens. Calm, silent time every day is good.
How much calm or silent time do you experience daily?
The theme of isolation can be seen as a means of self-discovery or a sign of despair–
and it oscillates between both. Simultaneously, cyclically, pulling us to remain present inside,
while constantly pushing with an urge to socialize, personally or digitally, outside with others.
As we end this busy year, I choose to remain in hibernation and isolation generating a new perspective on connection, socialization, education and transformation for the new year!
Wishing you and your people, plants, and pets a peaceful and regenerative holiday season.