Did you know that September hosts several dozen nationally recognized days such as “National Little Black Dress Day” and “National Blueberry Popsicle Day,” among some quite ridiculous others.
September also boasts very necessary and heavy promotion of a few major social objectives, one that is too close to my heart for comfort is Childhood Cancer Awareness.
I’m all for sharing the facts and early signs to be aware of, and I know the all-too-familiar hardships families go through, yet I don’t volunteer.
I see the need for funding and research to expand support or solutions, but I’ve not done any fundraising. I’m not involved.
I crusade more quietly; I crusade alone.
The most known and used definition of alone refers to “separateness; without support from others, single-handed, or unassisted.” And it can bring a sad disconnectedness. But alone also means “incomparable, unique.” I am referring to this latter definition.
I’ve noticed that I have a different perspective now about doing things alone, or being alone, since coming to a fuller understanding about how we are always alone and never alone. Yea, it gets kinda deep. I visit people and places, but tend to get the meaningful work done by myself; alone. Even when I think I need/want help.
We develop strong feelings and beliefs about how the social collective works regarding activities and available resources when we are:
- in committed relationships
- co-habitating or co-parenting
- sharing a common work or education environment
- being socially interactive with others
When we develop positive or negative thoughts or associations about our place in society before we’ve learned how to be alone, we tend to rely on others to keep us active, on-task, happy, or at least involved.
But when we choose to intentionally spend time alone, we:
- are less concerned about impressing or entertaining anyone
- see, hear, and care for our inner-most needs first
- feel a connection to the collective within, regardless of outer involvement
- discover our unique place in the social pattern
Once we see our mere existence and individuality as a crucial part of a whole, more often than not, this somehow motivates us into action for the greater good.
I thought I was alone, but…that subtle, sneaky thing happened.
Lisa the lossent
Where am I going with this?
After years of meditating deeply and daily, there comes a shift in perspective. It’s subtle; almost sneaky. It happens in waves, or levels, and it’s real. And there’s no going back.
Lately, life has been busy at my day job and I haven’t been as deep or diligent with my meditation–but once I disciplined myself back into routine, as soon as I got ok with being alone in the inner silence again, cool things started happening. People connected. Ideas actualized. I thought I was alone, but collective momentum picked up in a positive direction. That subtle, sneaky thing happened.
I’m so grateful for all the people involved with generating the frequency for next-level lossent action ~ what a wonderful impact we are having!
A lossent self-care suggestion:
Devote time to being alone, mindfully breathing, for at least 15 minutes daily.
- Only think about breathing.
- Allow your breath to flow in and out.
- Bring other thoughts back to your breath.
- Take slow, deep, purposeful breaths.
If you believe you struggle with meditation, I’d guess you’re trying too hard. Could you be overthinking? There are a myriad of strategies, counting, visualizations, mantras, etc., but I have found breathing to be the best immediate avenue to arrive within quickly.
For an instant reset, try Bathroom Breathing: As long as it takes you to use the toilet, discipline yourself to purposefully take 3 deep breaths. In, out, 3x. That’s it. Go on with your day.
You will feel better in the moment after just a few breaths, and if you discipline yourself, you will undeniably experience a naturally positive shift after a few consistent days.